Everyone has a secret.

Hope everyone out there had a great weekend. Hoping you got to spend it with friends and family. I was with my military family, and missing my real family.

While yesterday was Easter, it was also the beginning of National Infertility Awareness Week, and with that I would like to say a few things.

I feel everyone has some type of secret they live with every day. And ours is dealing with the battle of infertility.

Statistics show 10 to 11% of women struggled with infertility. What exactly does that means? It means that 10 to 11 percent of women are unable to conceive while trying for a period of 12 months or more between the ages of 15-44. Roughly 1.5 million.

And roughly 7.4 million in that age range having sought out infertility treatment services.

Read some quick FAQ about infertility here.

With that said, I am someone who struggles with infertility.

But you’re only 26, you say. It doesn’t matter.

But you’re healthy you say, that also doesn’t matter.

It will happen when it happens, just relax you say, no, it actually may not.

Your husband is gone all the time you say, trust me he has been home enough in the last two years for me to know whether or not we have a problem.

We started seeking treatment this time last year, after a year of struggling on our own.

After seeking medical assistance, we found out on December 30th 2013 that we were pregnant. It was the best feeling in the entire world.

And 10 days later, the worst feeling in the world. On January 10th 2014 we were forced to the ER, only to find out that we were having a miscarriage.

Three moths later and we still grieve for our child that we never had. We would have been 20 weeks pregnant today, halfway to our due date of September 9.

There is not a single day that goes by where I don’t think about the future that we almost had.

For the most part, we have kept many things to ourselves and our closest friends and family. We have been telling others as time has gone on. At first I didn’t know how common miscarriages are. But as I’ve spoken to others, they are more common that I could have imagined.

The reason I’m sharing this today is because I hope that me sharing my experiences will help just one person. For that one person, know you are not alone. And I am so sorry for your loss and your struggles. I wish I could help you. But know how brave and strong you are.

As we come up to the two year mark of trying to conceive, it hasn’t gotten any easier. It is now a part of daily life between doctors appointments, research, answers, more questions, tests and so much more. And watching those around us immediately conceive, or announce their second and third child, it is a constant reminder of what we don’t have and what we’re missing.

Something that seems so easy for others is unbelievably difficult and saddening for 10 percent of couples.

I want everyone to understand the reality of infertility for millions of people and couples. 1 in 8 couples. Think about how many couples you know….it’s a scary reality.

So I ask you this, please go to this link to grab an image and change your Facebook cover photo to show support for me and millions of others like me. There are options to choose from, like “Someone I love is 1 in 8.”

Please help me promote awareness so I can help others who are struggling every day with infertility.

I am 1 in 8.

4 thoughts on “Everyone has a secret.

  1. Hello doll, this was beautifully written and you should feel so proud of yourself for putting it all out there. I feel honored just to know you and that you did this, it will help so many people.


  2. Beautiful! You have an amazing way of putting things in to words. Very well said. I am 1 in 8 as well, never a group I wanted to be a part of. Prayers for you and your husband as you go through this journey.


    • Thank you so much for reading and commenting Nicole. I am sorry you are also 1 in 8, but keep fighting. There is a big community of support out there.


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